Jem Murphy
Coaching, Mediation and Facilitation
Cultivating relational skills for staying connected to what matters
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1-1 Coaching
Individualised support tailored to the area you would like to focus on: Relational skills, conflict transformation, decision-making, collaboration, vision and purpose.
Explore and integrate:
Deep self-connection
Empowered decision making
Authentic relating
Saying no with compassion
Asking for what you want
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Mediation
Get support in hearing each other with true understanding and find solutions that work for everyone. Transform conflict through empathic listening and honest expression. Available for groups as well as pairs.
Come together to:
Build trust
Shift from conflict to connection
Co-create meaningful connection
Cultivate empathy with needs-based listening
Co-create solutions that attend to what really mattersRelate with authenticity
Reconcile and heal
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Consultancy
Create a purpose-led, collaborative workplace where everyone thrives. Foster an environment of understanding and respect, leading to improved team dynamics and productivity.
Learn and develop:
A feedback system that promotes integrity, transparency and progress
A conflict resolution system that empowers individuals to deal with conflict with care and efficiency
Compassionate Communication practices and principles that guide collaboration and connectivity
About Compassionate Communication (NVC)
Compassionate Communication, also known as Nonviolent Communication (NVC), offers a powerful framework that can support us in cultivating inner peace, mutual understanding and solutions that work for everyone. It offers us the principles, practices and processes that help us in staying connected to what matters most to us.
It can be applied in many areas - from the inner and interpersonal to work at the organisational and systemic level. It gives us the relational skills that support emotional regulation and personal development, conflict resolution and collaboration.
"Nonviolent Communication is based on the principle of Ahimsa — the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart." ~ Marshall Rosenberg, founder of NVC
Nonviolent Communication is a way of being in the world that has the purpose to serve life and to create connection in such a way that everyone’s needs can be met through natural care. Find out more here: CNVC.ORG
About Jem
I am a facilitator and CNVC Certified Trainer. I’ve been practicing Compassionate Communication/Nonviolent Communication for 10 years and became certified in 2022. I live on the West Coast of Ireland, raising my two young children. I practice Compassionate Communication daily in my parenting and partnership, centering my life around personal growth and healing. I’m dedicated to supporting others on their own journeys of transformation. I work online with individuals and couples, offering coaching and mediation, and I run workshops and retreats in the Spring and Autumn on the West Coast.
Testimonials
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"Jem has extraordinary sensitivity and intuition about what a person needs. It seems to me she's very deeply listening to a person's process, and she's so there, she's just one breath away from where they need to go next. She has a natural gift for going into deep places with participants and making it safe." -G.W
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"It was excellent. My first experience with NVC. Everything was explained really well, the exercises we did were very powerful, the atmosphere created by Jem through the very effective teaching and facilitation made everyone feel very at ease. Although it was a group of strangers, it was easy to be open and participate as it felt very safe. " -U.M
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"She is strong and gentle, has a clear understanding of power dynamics and how to dissolve power differentials, she has the tools and integration to share NVC with others with great purity and integrity." -N.B
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"There was a lot of space to ask questions and begin a dialogue in the group. Jem was really clear in her responses and the way things were explained, and also opened space for the rest of the group to contribute our own understanding and view points." - E.B
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“I felt Jem created an held a beautiful space for the workshop - where vulnerability, fun & deeper enquiry were accepted and encouraged.” - RP
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‘This training was really informative on the basics of NVC. It helped me understand the concepts of what NVC is and the role empathy plays in our day to day lives when living and communicating with others in any situation, through discussion, role play and exercises” -C.M
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“The theory was broken down into easily understandable small steps, with a practice after each step to apply the theory. It was a comprehensive introduction of using NVC for a more compassionate approach with oneself and others and it was presented in a practical way” - M.T
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“Having volunteered for one as a demonstration I was surprised and impressed by how at ease she made me feel through her sure footed guidance, and how powerful it’s effect was, even though I was very nervous about doing the demonstration. The active participation in a number of exercises in small groups after the theory had been explained was incredibly effective in making me feel as though i understood and was immediately integrating the learnings, as well as making very genuine human connections with the others in the group.” -U.M
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"She has authority in her work, a gentle presence, and honesty and courage in communicating her own experience. Her integrity enabled me to participate honestly from my heart.” - D.S
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“I loved the calm and caring energy that Jem brought to the course. The meditations were beautiful, and she cultivated a space of safety, openness and introspection that was really amazing… especially in such a large group. “ - H.N
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I enjoyed Jem’s easeful approach to facilitation. Her warm, soft tone, combined with her unhurried approach, supported me to feel calm and at ease. I appreciated her intentional approach for setting a welcoming and safe container for connection, vulnerability, sharing and connected dialogue among the whole group. I enjoyed the environment of calm and I benefited from this throughout the day as she encouraged and invited us to be in our learning zone. It was a wonderful day of learning and connection” - C.ON
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"Most of all I appreciated Jem’s calm and clear presence in both body and mind. The way she holds this practice and transmits NVC to others is a joy to witness and magical to receive. I feel I have given myself and the people in my life an amazing gift by coming to the workshop today" - C.M
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"Very professional. Happy to answer any questions no matter how difficult or complicated" - J.M
Workshops and Retreats
Cultivate the inner resources to deal with whatever life brings you. Utilising Compassionate Communication principles and practices that can support us in developing more compassion and connection with ourselves and others. Real time practice, group connection and community building are woven into all workshop and retreat spaces.
Explore & Learn in Community:
The foundations of Compassionate Communication
A deeper understanding of feelings and needs
The power of empathy
Embodied self connection practices
Authentic relating
Transforming intense emotions like anger, shame, guilt and fear.
Upcoming events
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Pathways to Wholeness
Self-Compassion and Emotional Intelligence
Date TBC online Zoom calls, 10am-12pm GMT Online, September 2026
An online introductory course on Self Connection utilising NVC Principles and Practices.
Move from survival mode to emotional resilience. Thrive from a place of acceptance, compassion and understanding.
Learn the NVC tools that can help you deeply understand the root of your feelings and how deeply your needs matter.
Cultivating more empathy for yourself builds your capacity to have more empathy for others, make better decisions and deal with conflict in a compassionate way.
Practices include sharing circles, listening partnerships, meditations, journaling.
Cost: €80 (with initial deposit of €25 (to secure your place and cover costs)
Exact dates:
10am-12pm online Zoom
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Connected Conversations
Empathic Listening and Authentic Relating
Date: TBC
Learn Compassionate Communication principles and practices that support you in improving the quality of your relationships. Cultivate your natural capacity to access your inner wisdom.
Learn about the Key to NVC and the NVC Tree of Life.
Deepen your understanding of feelings and needs, empathic listening and authentic relating.
Learn the tools that can support you in transforming negative thinking and emotional intensity.
Integrate your learnings with embodied practices, meditations, dyads and circle sharing.
Cost: €45, with an initial deposit of €20 (to secure your place and cover costs)
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Inner Maps
Embodied Inner Work
Date TBC
The inner work of Compassionate Communication offers us a profound approach to connecting with ourselves empathically and honestly.
Learn tools that can help you deeply understand the root of your feelings and how deeply your needs matter.
We integrate this work through movement meditations and embodiment exercises.
Cultivating more empathy for yourself builds your capacity to have more empathy for others, make better decisions and deal with conflict compassionately.
Cost: €45 with an initial deposit of €20 (to secure your place and cover costs)
Contact me
Here to support you on your journey to personal, relational and community wellbeing. Please contact me for more informationan and to book a session